Being a struggling middle age male unable to drive because of a disorder, also with a poverty level income unable to afford rent and utilities had always made me consider the possibility of roommates. To obviously help pay the bills, share responsibilities and carpool. Most importantly in finding a roommate I always consider them to be godly and a believer in Jesus Christ. The reason knowing that their behavior would be a reflection of Christ Jesus and the acts of His disciples. Before I was saved by the blood of Jesus Christ I had roomed with other people, and I am done with the night after night drinking parties, the piles of dishes and trash that never gets cleaned, and the piles of cloths that are never washed. All things are always a mess with those that are of the world, and are never willing to compromise and sacrifice as Christ Jesus did.
Many churches may still prohibit the behavior of co-ed Christians living together, even not allow them to become members of the church if they are unmarried. This is because those living together are said to be living in sin due to the temptation being in the heart and mind always. It is not only a deed that is a sin but also how the heart is defiled. This is why it is important to purify the heart. It is wise to take understanding that the temptation of lust, which can bring forth fornication which is a sin in the eyes of God if the two are not one flesh (married) before God. Here are some verse throughout the scripture in the KJV.
Hebrews 13:4 – Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Galatians 5:19 – Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are [these]; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
Ephesians 5:5 – For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.
Matthew 19:9 – And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
1 John 1:9 – If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
This is how it works…living unmarried is not a sin, but it is one step closer toward sin since temptation is knocking at the bedroom door. Cheating on your wife is a sin which is a no-brainer for many, and cheating and lying is a sin. Doing such things makes the soul unclean and when the soul is unclean your spirit can’t get into heaven if your flesh which holds your spirit did die. This is why Jesus Christ died for all mankind, so we can be forgiven of such sin as fornication and lust, or lies. Believe in Jesus Christ, and that He came to die on the cross to save you from your sins, and that He rose from the grave defeating death so you may have eternal life too.
What should anybody do then in the situation? Most certainly pray, but it seems likely there are two options. Either live separately till you get married or live together till marriage. This is why prayer will help and the Lord will help sort out the situation.
If you do live together I would recommend praying with one another daily, and participating in worship with another. But it is most important to hold onto chastity, refraining from any sexual intercourse until marriage. This way the relationship will bloom into what Christ Jesus stood for, sharing joys and burdens, being strong for one another with no complaints. What that spirit God brings into the relationship will echo onto how you treat friends, family, and strangers. There will be times sexual feelings for another occur as often as it would not living with another, it is best tell another about your feelings and contend to the scriptures. Do not be scared to lose toxic people in your lives either. You may find that your partner does not read well with one of your friends-maybe they are a toxic person. The many relationships that believe pleasure from sex is what defines a relationship, a hedonistic philosophy are only fooling themselves for a tangy orgasm, as much as the first puff the cigarette then the rest is regret. The Joy, Hope and Love felt from the Holy Spirit never stops penetrating.