Living Unmarried A Sin?

Being a struggling middle age male unable to drive because of a disorder,  also with a poverty level income unable to afford rent and utilities had always made me consider the possibility of roommates. To obviously help pay the bills, share responsibilities and carpool. Most importantly in finding a roommate I always consider them to be godly and a believer in Jesus Christ. The reason knowing that their behavior would be a reflection of Christ Jesus and the acts of His disciples. Before I was saved by the blood of Jesus Christ I had roomed with other people, and I am done with the night after night drinking parties, the piles of dishes and trash that never gets cleaned, and the piles of cloths that are never washed. All things are always a mess with those that are of the world, and are never willing to compromise and sacrifice as Christ Jesus did.

Many churches may still prohibit the behavior of co-ed Christians living together, even not allow them to become members of the church if they are unmarried. This is because those living together are said to be living in sin due to the temptation being in the heart and mind always. It is not only a deed that is a sin but also how the heart is defiled. This is why it is important to purify the heart. It is wise to take understanding that the temptation of lust, which can bring forth fornication which is a sin in the eyes of God if the two are not one flesh (married) before God. Here are some verse throughout the scripture in the KJV.

Hebrews 13:4 – Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

Galatians 5:19 – Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are [these]; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,

Ephesians 5:5 – For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.

Matthew 19:9 – And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

1 John 1:9 – If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

This is how it works…living unmarried is not a sin, but it is one step closer toward sin since temptation is knocking at the bedroom door. Cheating on your wife is a sin which is a no-brainer for many, and cheating and lying is a sin. Doing such things makes the soul unclean and when the soul is unclean your spirit can’t get into heaven if your flesh which holds your spirit did die. This is why Jesus Christ died for all mankind, so we can be forgiven of such sin as fornication and lust, or lies. Believe in Jesus Christ, and that He came to die on the cross to save you from your sins, and that He rose from the grave defeating death so you may have eternal life too.


What should anybody do then in the situation? Most certainly pray, but it seems likely there are two options. Either live separately till you get married or live together till marriage. This is why prayer will help and the Lord will help sort out the situation.

If you do live together I would recommend praying with one another daily, and participating in worship with another. But it is most important to hold onto chastity, refraining from any sexual intercourse until marriage. This way the relationship will bloom into what Christ Jesus stood for, sharing joys and burdens, being strong for one another with no complaints. What that spirit God brings into the relationship will echo onto how you treat friends, family, and strangers. There will be times sexual feelings for another occur as often as it would not living with another, it is best tell another about your feelings and contend to the scriptures. Do not be scared to lose toxic people in your lives either. You may find that your partner does not read well with one of your friends-maybe they are a toxic person. The many relationships that believe pleasure from sex is what defines a relationship, a hedonistic philosophy are only fooling themselves for a tangy orgasm, as much as the first puff the cigarette then the rest is regret. The Joy, Hope and Love felt from the Holy Spirit never stops penetrating.

God Can Make Fools Wise

Written by Talon Moser

God does make fools wise, while the world makes fools worse off. The individual themselves has only but the choice to accept that God has a plan for them, or they can try to take control of their life. Every time, no matter heritage, family stature or income life cannot be controlled, God is always going to take control. There is only so many times one can buy themselves out of a situation or run. Eventually one reaps what they sow, and this is when God enters your life. So will you accept Him into your heart when at your weakest this time? Many do not when they are at their highest. God doesn’t discriminate, He loves His children no matter what happened. All God wants is for each and every one of us is to come back home. But for that to happen we must accept Him into our life. The only way for this to occur is through His son Jesus Christ, the Son that died for mankind’s sins. God sent His beloved son down to His creation to die so that we may live and have eternal life, to live in the heavenly kingdom once separate from the flesh and sin. Have faith and believe that Jesus Christ lived, died and resurrected defeating death so that we may live.

Difference Between Wisdom and Knowledge

We only have two choices, either to believe in the word of God or not to believe in the word of God. Those who do not believe in God, then believe in the world and worldly things. The bible says those who have faith in the world are fools, and those who have faith in Christ Jesus will become wise through God. Seeking wisdom is different from having information, knowledge, or an imagination. The world had been corrupted once Adam and Eve believed they knew better than God, believing they knew right from wrong and good from evil. We are all born into this world, therefore we are all corrupted born into this creation. Those who do not believe or not know the word of God only believing in information, knowledge and imagination always fall victim to wickedness, or ‘for a longer term’-a need to control and explain how and why experiences had occurred during life. This type of mentality leads to all sorts of mental illnesses and behaviors; anxiety, depression, narcissist, pride, violence, greed, OCD, impatient, social problems, role model issues, malevolence, idol worship, ungratefulness. And the list continues with more pessimistic minds and cynostic philosophies.

What exactly does it mean to be wise?

I could simply say to rely completely on God. Jesus said not to worry about food or drink to his followers, mentioning “do you see the birds of the air or the animals of the field worry about how they eat”? If the father in heaven provides for the beasts of the earth surly He will provide for you. It means never worry, no matter how complicated or chaotic life may become or seem in the mind. There may be a world war happening now, or one occurring inside your head, but what is actually happening is a spiritual battle. A battle between God and the devil, while the devil distracts you with worldly things steering you away from God. God is trying to bring you back to the Holy Spirit, to pray. Wisdom is not about how much a person knows on Jeopardy, or how well a chess player they are. Wisdom is about survival, and how well the mind, heart and spirit can handle the elements God put in their way. Think about this- what happens to Job in the book of Job. How would you react if all things were stripped from you; your belongings, cloths, health, family, wealth, friends, everything. Would you still pray to God?, or would you curse God? Being honest with yourself always helps your relationship with God. In such a process through taking everything from an individual God can make a fool wise.

Turning a Fool Wise

My two favorite examples how God turned fools wise are King Nebuchadnezzar and the Apostle Paul. First King Nebuchadnezzar, King of the Babylonian Empire was prideful, greedy, violent and arrogant. A Jew Daniel at the time who interpreted the kings dreams had told the king they were a message from the one true God. The king in his arrogance ignored the plea from Daniel to make any changes in his faith. King Nebuchadnezzar instead built a golden statue for all to worship, and tried burning Daniels brothers in a furnace. Eventually God sent Nebuchadnezzar into the wild to feed like the beasts of the wild for 7 years only then he will know the one true God. Nebuchadnezzar years later after being in the wilderness had finally sought and accepted the Father of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. Taking his throne back Nebuchadnezzar had given his life to the King of Heaven realizing that everything built in the Babylonian Empire was not done by his hand but by the works of our heavenly father.

Another great example is the Apostle Paul who was formally known as Saul while he was a Roman solider. As Saul, he persecuted Christians for believing and following the teachings of Jesus Christ. Saul was an educated man, knowing how to read and write many languages. It wasn’t till one day on horseback as Saul was going down a trail, our Lord and savior appeared to Saul asking “why do you persecute my people”? The light, or something had blinded Saul. He could no longer see. Blind and disabled, no longer fit for duty, the once Saul had begun a new chapter when he had help from the same Christian community he persecuted. They were hesitant at first, but knew that Jesus taught to love your enemies and those that persecute you.

A series of miraculous changes occurred for Saul once he gave his life to God. He changed his name to Paul, his sight came back and he dedicated his life to spread the gospel. And Paul did keep to his promise to spread the gospel, even though threats, and imprisonment complicated things Paul knew the Lord our God was in control.

There is a pattern that God follows. God takes broken people, those who have succumbed to the views of the world and turns them around for good works. For what was meant for evil, God used for Good. You will never find this wisdom on a blueprint or under a microscope. If you ever feel your emotions fleeting, your stress overwhelming, or that God is putting too much into an agenda you can’t see or don’t have plans for. Accept it, you must. This is God giving you the spotlight, an opportunity to change and let God take the wheel. You may not have the skills, knowledge or experience, but have faith that God will guide you. This is the opportunity of a lifetime to make you courageous through works of faith, were no blueprint or microscope is necessary.